I have done four posts, this one is about myself and three others, about Leigh, Juno and Aston respectfully. I’m hoping that in this post I don’t repeat myself too much as I know I am always talking about myself, apologies if I do, but I wanted to start with myself before I move on to introduce you to the other people in my life, and the ones you hear about all the time on here.
This Is Me
So here goes, Hi I’m Tom, but I think you’ve got that already. I’m 47yrs old and I have Asperger Syndrome, and part and parcel of this is social anxiety. The other condition I suffer with is Coronary Artery Disease or CAD for short. I have spent my entire adult life driving for a living mostly on class 1 HGV vehicles, but with the diagnoses of my heart disease, ended my lorry driving. I spend a great deal of time these days in hospital so I needed to find something a little more flexible that I could do for a living, that would fit around my regular trips to hospital.
I have spent years trying to come up with something else I could do that would not only work with my Heart Disease, but also my Asperger’s, but everything I came up with either was too expensive for me to be able to afford, or just did not fit with my conditions. Then I came to the conclusion that what I needed was to work from home, online if possible so that I could also work from anywhere, so if I was in hospital I could work, away for any reason I could still work.
So I now am on Facebook as Tom Wolf and with a page
and also a group at
I have a twitter account at
and also this blog, and if you are viewing this on one of my social media pages the blog is
I am trying to also have an online business that is not just for information and as a hobby and interest, but something that I can make a living from. I will continue with my blog and social media. If anyone has any questions, please feel free to ask, and I will do my best to answer all questions as fully as possible, of course it will be from my unique Aspie point of view and everyone with Aspergers an ASD or Autism are all different, there may be a lot of similarities and even some who are just like me, but there will also be people who have very different symptoms to me, and I can only speak from my point of view, if you are one of the ones that has very different symptoms I would love to hear how it affects you.
I have spent so much time on the road over the years that I love the solitude, I love to travel and I find driving one of the most relaxing things that I do. If I’ve had a day out with lots of sensory information I find that when I get in the car, put on some music and relax for the drive home, it is so calming, and helps no end with making me start to feel better. Then when I get home I have a nice quiet house, I shut myself away in my room and will either put on music and get on the computer, or just relax in front of the TV and as long as I have a quiet day the next day feel a lot more myself again.
I have had friends and family lose touch, or just don’t want to see me and I’m OK with that, if they don’t want me in their life then I don’t want them in mine. I can manage just fine with the small number of people in my life. I wonder how many of you are like me for this? I don’t need many people around me and manage fine as I am and have no problem with spending a lot of time alone.
I do love my TV and this is one of my obsessions, along with a very sweet tooth but you will hear more about that from Leigh. I spend many hours in front of the TV and have some Aspie films that I may do a post about in the future. I also have wanted to do my bike test for years but just don’t seem to get round to it year after year. I have a diverse taste in music and am a very big talker, only as long as I’m talking about subjects that interest me. If not I am just not interested.
I have very few feelings and this has been extensively discussed with the people in my life so they know this, but I don’t get upset when people die, even family, I don’t feel love in the normal sense, love to me is that I like having people in my life that I get along with, and enjoy spending time with them. I like to see them regularly and I wouldn’t want to not have them around. I do feel it in some ways, it’s very hard for me to put into words, I really have a lack of feelings on most things. I don’t get easily excited but I’m very optimistic and always look on the bright side of most things. I can find something good in almost any situation.
Anyway, I’ve been talking for long enough but keep your eye out this week as I shall be putting up a post on Leigh, Juno and of course Aston so keep an eye out for those and let me know any thoughts or questions you have, either on my blog or one of my social media sites.